Chapter
2:
What is crooked cannot be made straight and what is lacking cannot
be numbered. (Ecclesiastes 1:15)
CHAPTER
2:
Hope
There
is nothing more important in life than the worship
of God. Despite its importance, our
culture forces us to most frequently think of worship
in terms of what happens during religious services.
But worship is far broader than that as shown
in Chapter 1, because worship is the giving of
homage to God. Worship
is the action of paying respect, of giving respect, of giving tribute to Him.
It is the paying of reverential deference and therefore it reaches out to
encompass our every act in reference to our relationship with Him, and not
merely what one does in services on Sabbath and Holy Days, or even in prayer and
Bible Study each day. It will
include, among other things, how we approach dating
and betrothal
in the Churches of God.
The
emphasis here is on
action,
giving, serving, obeying, paying. These are all
aspects of worshipping God. Worship describes how we respond to God on the job, at home, in our
marriage, how we drive our cars, because the deference, the respect that we give
Him in each and every area of life reflects how seriously we take Him.
By worship we show how important being like him really is.
Through worship we show how
important seeking to please Him really is to us.
Worship reveals the value that
we place on our relationship with the God Family.
For
we are being saved in hope:
but hope
that is seen is not hope:
for what a man sees, why does he yet hope
for? (Romans 8.24)
This
part of the study will examine Hope
within the worship of God as it pertains to dating
and betrothal. Notice the above scripture.
This is one on hope
which is not mentioned very often. Having
noted this scripture, let us start with three of the most basic Scriptures
regarding faith.
For by grace are you saved through faith. (Ephesians 2.8)
Now faith is the substance of things hoped
for, the evidence of things not seen. (Hebrews 11.1)
So
then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. (Romans 10.17)
Ephesians
2.8 it says that we are saved by grace, and states faith’s overall importance
to salvation. In Hebrews
11.1—"Faith is shown as the foundation of things hoped for" confirms why
it is so important. Everything
built or developed in our relationship with God depends upon faith in Him.
And in Romans 10.17—"the faith that saves" is generated
through hearing and receiving the words of God about God and His purpose.
Faith can be generated from many things.
A false message or concept will even generate ideas, and we can believe
these concepts, but only the faith generated from God’s
Word
matters
in our relationship with Christ.
There
is no contradiction in what Paul is writing about in Ephesians 2.8.
In Romans 8.24 he is indicating that salvation is a continuous, ongoing
process. He is showing that the
whole package does not happen all at once, but rather that through the whole
process we continue in
hope. We are being saved in
hope. It is a necessary part of the process that is going on, and
we need hope
all the way through it—all the way to the end.
Likewise, in our marriages we need hope
all the way to the end. It is most
important that we make wise choices, which will promote hope
in dating
and betrothal. No team can win a basketball championship unless the players
have the fundamentals right.
Likewise, no team can have a successful marriage unless they approach dating
and betrothal
right. Stephen Covey wrote a 1994
best seller, First Things First which
focuses on the need to do the first steps first, and to do them well.
How true this is during dating
and betrothal.
Levels of Hope Change
In
our youth, our hopes
usually center on toys of some sort. Dolls
or bicycles are the kind of things that children naturally hope
for. As we get older we still hope,
but what we hope
for gradually changes to things like an automobile, or clothing, or acceptance
into some group that we admire. We hope
that a team we favor wins. We hope to graduate from college, and then we hope
to find good job. We hope
that we will meet the right person to marry and have a successful family life.
As
we get older our experiences broaden through middle-age. We mature in our thinking, and become concerned about the
world situation. We wonder why
there is so much conflict, and we hope
for peace. We wonder why there are
so many horrible diseases, and we hope
our family is spared from them. We
wonder why there are so many natural disasters around the world, and we hope
that these disasters pass over us.
Finally
as we get older, our own mortality affects us far more seriously than when we
were young, and we begin to seriously wonder about God, hoping
that we have a good relationship with Him, and that relationship becomes much
more important. We hope
that this life is not all there is. We
hope
to be in God’s kingdom.
Hoping
comes easily because all of our faculties, all of our senses—our sense of
sight, our sense of taste, our sense of smell, our sense of hearing, and our
sense of touch—are geared to set a value on many of things.
These senses cause us to hope
for the things that we consider best to us.
We see beautiful Lake Louise in Canada, and we hope
that we will see something beautiful again.
We smell a fragrance that maybe sets off a chain of references and raises
nostalgic memories within us, like the fragrance of your wife’s perfume that
is the fragrance she wore the day you proposed to her.
Or we hear a piece of music and it does the same thing, and we hope
that we will experience that kind of pleasure and thrill once again.
We taste food, and we hope
that we get to taste something that tastes so good again.
We touch something, or somebody touches us, and it gives us a sense that
we hope
that that kind of thing happens again. This
is the hope,
the subject of this part of the study, which involves proper dating
and betrothal
in preparation for marriage for life. This
hope
only has its roots in what God teaches about his procedure, his way of entering
into that special relationship called marriage in preparation to enter his
kingdom as the “Bride of Christ.” Not
surprisingly, there are principles and laws, which govern how people should date,
become betrothed,
and eventually enter a marriage covenant.
The
Forlorn Hope
But
there is a very important issue in all of this hope, and that is, that the bottom line—the single most important
factor on whether what we hope
for is accomplished and becomes a reality in our life—is the substance
(we’re touching on Hebrews 11.1 here), the ground, the assurance,
the evidence,
the proof that we will have what it is that we hope for. Without solid
evidence one has little or no reality for his hopes, and they are merely wishes and daydreams.
Many
hopes
pass through our mind, and just as quickly as they form, they are put out,
because we know that they are impossible. You
might hope
that tomorrow you would wake up with a million dollars in your bank account, and
your mind starts generating things like, "I could do this."
"I could buy such and such a house." "I could have such and such a car."
"I could pay off all my debts."
"I could get beautiful clothing."
"I could, I could, I could…. "
But you know that it is all just a pipe dream.
It is not going to happen because there is absolutely no
evidence
whatsoever, no possibility that such a thing will occur.
What
is the result of such hoping? The result is that
we will take no steps to make our hopes and dreams happen. In
order for a hope
to be accomplished, to become something that we actually possess, it must be
accompanied by a conviction, a proof produced from a reality to even continue to
hope
and to motivate us to work toward accomplishing what it is that we hope
for.
In
the universities a process called Modernization
and Revisionist thinking permeates the
scholars in the area of History. History
is rewritten to give what is called a more accurate perspective and sanitized
view of the past. Likewise, there
has been a process in the Churches of God emphasizing revisionist thinking and
modernization. Now this sounds
great, but does it square with Gods Word,
the
way of
life he shows his creation in the
Bible? A classic example in the
misinformation, or revisionist thinking of history classes involves many small
items of detail omitted from modern texts and classes.
History teachers no longer focus on some small, insignificant, or silly
details. I would ask again, do
small things matter? Likewise,
modernization tends to water down the truth of God and make it applicable to
social models of the period.
In
the annals of history concerning the Napoleonic Wars, history records a most
peculiar classification of certain individuals. When an army was breaching, making a hole in a wall around a
town or fort, they would spend a lot of effort to make the hole.
Likewise, the enemy inside would aim all their defenses at this spot
because they knew this was the spot the opposing army would seek to enter the
fort and overwhelm them. There was a brigade chosen in advance to rush through this
hole first. They were
called
The Forlorn Hope.
The catch was that practically none of these soldiers stood a chance of
surviving because they would be met by all that the enemy could throw at them.
They were cannon fodder. But
ironically, there was great theoretical honor to this position, at least among
the leaders. The leaders did not enter the hole for the most part, they
just sent the doomed brigade through that hole.
Do
small things matter? Do you see the
analogy? The self-appointed leaders
of the modern Churches of God could be sending their youth through a breach in
doctrinal matters as cannon fodder. The
young people in the church entering a
dating
relationship have no hope.
They are The
Forlorn Hope.
They have modernized dating
and betrothal
practices in the Churches of God to conform to the World’s system.
The youth in the church for the most part follow the
way of
the World in dating
relationships. They focus their
youth on developing the self and making wise and adult choices.
What balderdash and bullfeathers!! In
the early days of the church Mr. Armstrong wrote The New Mortality. He
gave guidelines for the proper age of marriage and logical arguments but did not
really touch on the importance of God’s Government in the initial stages of dating
and betrothal
based upon the solid evidence of God’s Word.
Basically, a lot of these early writings have been sidelined because of
modernization of Church of God beliefs.
As
near as I can tell the divorce and remarriage statistics within the Churches of
God fair no better than the statistics of the world.
Ministers at feast sites have touched on this paradox many times.
Naturally, the majority of the young people go about finding a mate just
like the people of the world.
There
has to be proof for our hopes, or they are nothing but a wish, they are nothing but a dream,
they are nothing but the product of our own imagination.
We are dealing here with a process that is very important to spiritual
health and well-being and eternal life, because God’s Word tells us that faith
is the substance, it is the ground, it is the assurance of things hoped for. In the previous
chapter we dealt with how that faith involves a total approach to how we worship
God. That
way,
that approach is the title-deed of things hoped for. It is the evidence
of things not seen. It also tells
us that the only faith that God will accept comes, proceeds, from His own word. So faith—the conviction, the assurance that enables hopes
that pertain to our relationship with God—must come from God’s word. The instructions on the approach to dating
and betrothal
must come from God’s word, not empty philosophy and social norms of a decadent
society.
The
only reason that we can have
hope in
a marriage relationship rests upon whether God has said
anything about the things that we hope
for. Only a true conviction that
comes from God’s Word is valid. In
the Churches of God, the only hope
we have of approaching dating
toward marriage correctly should involve whether our approach is based upon
something taught in God’s Word.
Any
hope
of eternal life, every shred of hope
we have in our marriages, absolutely rests on the faithfulness of God in keeping
His promises. His word is always
true, and that is where conviction should rise from.
Now if there is no God, or if He lies, or if He is careless in any way,
then we have no foundation whatever for our hope
and that kind of faith is absolutely baseless.
It is nothing more than wishful thinking and everything therefore depends
on the fact that He has spoken, and whatever He says is true.
Otherwise all of us in the Churches of God are no better off than the
first brigade to try and span a breach in enemy walls.
We are The Forlorn Hope. Our children and
their future mates and offspring will be just another generation of The Forlorn Hope.
If
we have heard nothing on a particular subject from God, we have nothing to
believe. There is no law for or against that subject. His word is law. There is therefore no legitimate reason for
anything except human faith or human emotion if nothing has been said concerning
a particular topic in the Bible. We
can place no
hope
in what doesn’t exist, and all we are doing is exercising our imagination.
Spiritual and Physical
Maturity
One
of the essential principles Mr. Armstrong used to focus on was the concept of
maturity. Yes, maturity is
essential when approaching baptism. Maturity
is essential to count the cost. Even
more so, maturity is essential in dating
towards marriage. The reason is
that you as a young person in society, and especially within God’s Church have
no right whatsoever to approach this topic in a selfish, immature way.
You are not an independent person. God’s
Family and his government, his true government, leaves little room for free
thinkers when it comes to his statutes and judgements.
Not
surprisingly, we see the principle of denying self, crop out in sermons quite
often. A recent example would be
Mr. Mario Hernandez in his message Planting
and Harvesting (VTE153). In
this sermon he made the point and defined maturity, as that point where one has
the capacity to put of short term desires to reach long term gains.
This of course is quite accurate. Self-denial
is a big doctrinal topic. Take the
teachings of Paul.
Colossians
1:24
Who now rejoice in my sufferings for you [meaning the church there at Colosse]
and fill up that which is behind of the afflictions of Christ in my flesh for
his body’s sake, which is the church.
Paul
does not mean in any way that Christ’s sufferings are inadequate, nor does he
mean that there is a predetermined amount of suffering that each person should
go through. He is simply saying,
expressing that it is unavoidable if one is associated with Christ and living as
a Christian, they will experience suffering.
One of the things that can be
extrapolated from this principle that Paul is talking about is that the church
is continually built up by repeated acts of self-denial by its members, and that
self-denial—those sacrifices—is going to be painful to human nature.
That is what he’s talking about here.
We in the church are aliens within the
culture around us, and aliens are usually persecuted.
So what we have are called-out saints traveling along the way that is leading to the Kingdom
of God, and we are being prepared to become kings and priests.
We have been assured that along the way there is going to be suffering.
There are going to be sudden and unexpected twists and turns in our
journey, and that we should be able to make sacrifices and use self-denial, even
in dating
and betrothal if
needed.
God warns us to be sober. To
be sober means to be self-controlled, conducting our life with understanding.
In
addition, the requirements of just keeping on moving, of not letting attractive
digressions distract us, pulling us off the way, will always be pressuring us.
There may be injury, sicknesses, unexpected death, and even loved-ones
departing the
way.
But we are assured that the hardships that produce the suffering will be
within certain parameters, and they will not be greater than we can bear.
All of this must be done by faith.
To
illustrate further, lets go back to I Peter 2:4.
I
Peter 2:4
To whom coming, as unto a living stone, disallowed indeed of men, but chosen of
God, and precious, 5 You also, as lively stones are built up a spiritual house.
We
are living stones in a spiritual house. Metaphorically,
when "stone" is applied to man—[This is in the Bible.]—it usually
indicates stupidity, hardness of heart, or not being converted.
But when a person becomes converted, he becomes a living
stone—one of many in a spiritual house, building, or temple—and he does not
remain alone. He must be built into
the fabric of the church—the temple. He
becomes part of a community, and the church is a community of living beings held
together by a common bond. That
bond is Christ. The point is clear,
that a stone by itself, lying out in a field, is pretty much useless.
It becomes useful only when it is integrated into the building—the
temple. By itself it accomplishes
nothing, but joined with others—a structure capable of serving many
purposes—is built.
There
is no such thing as an independent Christian.
Christianity, without the church, is an impossibility, because the church
is Christ’s body, and no part of our body lives once it is no longer a part of
the body. The member dies.
And so the Christian is trained, and thus his trials are going to be
pretty much set by his association with
the church, and God’s calling for him to become a king and a priest.
Likewise his life, his approach to
dating
and betrothal
will be governed by only God’s Truth. We
rise and fall with the spiritual state of this building and in untouched areas
concerning dating
and betrothal. The statutes and judgements associated with this topic have
been neglected too long. It is no
wonder the gift of miraculous healing is not present in the church today.
Self-denial has not taken place in the arenas of dating
and betrothal. The way of the world has been substituted and the old man,
the self, has only been partially buried. How
much retention of the old-self does it take to keep Jesus outside our spiritual
door, knocking.
Quit Pushing Me Around
Yes,
all of the youth in the church today have been pushed around all of their lives.
They cannot wait to make decisions on their own.
They are approaching a point where they need to take control of their
lives and make their own mistakes. This
is what modern culture teaches and the psychiatrists who dominate the world and
to some extent the Churches of God. It
sounds good, real good, and has and element of truth.
I will make the dogmatic statement right here that there are at least
three levels of biblical truth to about any topic. The Bible is a complete book, but the tares and wolves feed
in a frenzy on the flock using cute twists of human reasoning concerning truth.
This categorization of truth will be covered later in this study.
It sounds real good to have someone emphasize in a sermon that your
parents need to quit micromanaging you and let you make adult decisions. It sounds real good and appeals to human nature to have
another person tell you how they appreciate your opinions and that you need to
make your own decisions. Again,
there is an element of truth to this, but a real small element.
Someone may be setting you up to partake of The Tree of the Knowledge of
Good and Evil.
Young
people see teachers pushing them everywhere and parents pushing them here and
there. They see police pushing them
around. They see ministers in the
church pushing them around, not only them but their parents too.
The youth have lived their whole lives with others making decisions for
them. What they need to realize is
that there is “nothing new under the
sun.” Their parents endured
the same fate of being pushed around before them.
During
their wandering and preparation in The Wilderness, preparing to reach the point
they could enter the Promised Land, the Children of Israel had many unexpected
things happen and they reacted typically with human nature.
They too had been pushed around all their lives.
An example of this takes place just before they enter the Promised Land.
Numbers
14:1-4
And all the congregation lifted up their voice, and cried; and the people wept
that night. [It doesn’t sound like they were happy about this twist.] 2 And
all the children of Israel murmured against Moses and against Aaron: and the
whole congregation said unto them, Would God that we had died in the land of
Egypt! Or would God we had died in this wilderness! 3 And wherefore has the LORD
brought us unto this land to fall by the sword, that our wives and our children
should be a prey? Were it not better for us to return into Egypt? 4 And they
said one to another, Let us make a captain, and let us return into Egypt.
They
were experiencing a twist and turn that they didn’t like at all!
Is that the way you are if your parents forbid you to date
someone? You probably will not like
it. Your potential date
may not like it, but will you just return to Egypt and follows the ways of the
world.
Numbers
21:4
And they journeyed from mount Hor by the way of the Red sea, to compass the land
of Edom: and the soul of the people was much discouraged because of the way.
Do
you ever get discouraged because of the
way
to the Kingdom of God? Israel’s way
was narrow and difficult. Is that
not what Jesus said, that the
way to
the Promised Land, to the Kingdom of God, is narrow, and it is difficult, and
few there be that find it, that find the
way to
the end?
Young
people, your life is just as stressful, but in a different way and for a much
different end than the Israelites’ life had been in Egypt.
Their life in Egypt was hard, and in Egypt they were going to death.
Now here they were, released into liberty.
They were free people, but they were finding that the way of liberty, the way of freedom, is difficult as well; just a little bit different
though, and to a different purpose and end than it had been in Egypt.
When God made an unexpected turn of direction while leading them, it
becomes apparent that He had more in mind than simply taking Israel into the
Promised Land.
Consider,
how would people who had been slaves all of their lives might use the liberty
that had been given to them? The
answer is that they would use it, with few adjustments, in the same way as they
had been trained in Egypt. You
probably heard the cliché that "Israel went out of Egypt, but Egypt never
left Israel." They carried
their experiences as slaves in Egypt everywhere because that is the only
experiences they had to go on. Likewise,
what experiences do the youth in the church draw upon when approaching dating,
betrothal,
respect, and parental authority? These
are all questions that pertain to the hope
within the youth of the church and their future hope.
It also pertains to the survival of the church.
How
much experience did the Israelites have in governing themselves God’s
way? As slaves, it is possible that someone else had structured
their entire existence, and from the time that they got up in the morning until
"lights out" at night, somebody else was telling them what to do, how
to do it, and when to do what they finally chose to do.
As a young person in the church, does this seem familiar?
Now in Egypt they were hardly ever confronted with making truly
meaningful decisions pertaining to their life.
A slave doesn’t get many choices.
In addition to that, and also very important, is that the spiritual,
moral, and ethical instruction and decision-making experience that they did
have in Egypt was from an anti-God system.
So are the dating
and betrothal
practices of the world today. Not
all of the practices within the church are from the world but a significant part
are.
Lets
go now to Numbers 9:15 as we continue this saga. We are going to read all the way through to verse 23 because
I feel the whole thing is important to the foundation of this study.
Numbers
9:15-23
And on the day that the tabernacle was reared up the cloud covered the
tabernacle, namely, the tent of the testimony: and at even there was upon the
tabernacle as it were the appearance of fire, until the morning. 16 So it was
always: the cloud covered it by day, and the appearance of fire by night. 17 And
when the cloud was taken up from the tabernacle, then after that the children of
Israel journeyed: and in the place where the cloud abode, there the children of
Israel pitched their tents. 18 At the commandment of the LORD the children of
Israel journeyed, and at the commandment of the LORD they pitched: as long as
the cloud abode upon the tabernacle they rested in their tents. 19 And when the
cloud tarried long upon the tabernacle many days, then the children of Israel
kept the charge of the LORD, and journeyed not. 20 And so it was, when the cloud
was a few days upon the tabernacle; according to the commandment of the LORD
they abode in their tents, and according to the commandment of the LORD they
journeyed. 21 And so it was, when the cloud abode from even unto the morning,
and that the cloud was taken up in the morning, then they journeyed: whether it
was by day or by night that the cloud was taken up, they journeyed. 22 Or
whether it were two days, or a month, or a year, that the cloud tarried upon the
tabernacle, remaining thereon, the children of Israel abode in their tents, and
journeyed not: but when it was taken up, they journeyed. 23 At the commandment
of the LORD they rested in the tents, and at the commandment of the LORD they
journeyed: they kept the charge of the LORD, at the commandment of the LORD by
the hand of Moses.
Do
we see God in our lives with the clarity that at least Moses and maybe some of
the Israelites saw God in their lives? Our
lives, once converted, are totally tied to where God is leading.
Do we understand that? That
is what this paragraph is showing those who are converted.
Does it not seem like parents, teachers and others put young people
through exactly the same experiences that God put the Israelites through while
wandering in the Wilderness?
The
Bizarre Nature of the Tares
The
liberty of those in the church is to live by every world of God.
Their liberty is to learn all of his laws.
The bizarre nature of the tares
in God’s Church and what they will teach concerning dating
and picking
a mate can be demonstrated in a unique
analysis of one Old Testament story. It
concerns the topic of inheritance. Yes,
inheritance is a part of the topic of dating
and betrothal. The Israelites were approaching the Promised Land.
After all these years they were almost there.
The previous generation had died in the wilderness and everyone was
wondering who would get what land once they crossed the Jordan River.
This is a natural concern but they were not putting First
Things First. They had not even
crossed the Jordan River yet.
The
story concerns Zelophehad’s Daughters. The
tares will point to this as proof
that women may marry whom they want. They
will wave the following scripture as proof that women can make the adult
decision to pick their mates and
date
whomever they want. But does this
scripture really say that? Young
Women, be careful, the entire truth
of any matter is usually scattered around the Bible in several places.
If this is the only scripture you can produce to justify your desire to pick
whom and when you date,
you are in a lot of trouble. In
your zeal to gain liberty, you have bought “The
Lie.” This idea may appeal to
your human nature but it is hardly scriptural.
Let’s examine all of the scriptures affecting this topic in a prayerful
attitude.
People
using this argument to prove their point focus on V6, notice.
Numbers
36:6
This is the thing which the LORD doth command concerning the daughters of
Zelophehad, saying, Let them marry to whom they think best; only to the family
of the tribe of their father shall they marry.
Yes,
this verse appears to say that women may marry or pick whom they choose to
marry, and by implication extend the privilege to
dating
but the verse is taken out of context. This
is a common practice of those wishing to find a scriptural excuse to make the
exception and follow their human reasoning.
Let’s read the entire account. Following
the plague which was brought about by the Israelites determining who they should
date
when they tried to date
and intermarry with gentiles inhabiting the ancient land of Moab (See Numbers
35), a new census was taken of the tribes.
In Numbers 26:33 the daughters of Zelophehad are mentioned as being the
sole survivors in their family. Shortly
after this census, inheritance became the hot topic in the tribes’ minds.
Consequently, the daughters of Zelophehad approached Moses concerning
their Father’s inheritance.
Notice:
Numbers
27: 1-11
Then came the daughters of Zelophehad, the son of Hepher, the son of Gilead, the
son of Machir, the son of Manasseh, of the families of Manasseh the son of
Joseph: and these are the names of his daughters; Mahlah, Noah, and Hoglah, and
Milcah, and Tirzah. 2 And they stood before Moses, and before Eleazar the
priest, and before the princes and all the congregation, by the door of the
tabernacle of the congregation, saying, 3 Our father died in the wilderness, and
he was not in the company of them that gathered themselves together against the
LORD in the company of Korah; but died in his own sin, and had no sons. 4 Why
should the name of our father be done away from among his family, because he hath no son? Give unto us therefore a possession among
the brethren of our father. 5 And Moses brought their cause before the LORD. 6
And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, 7 The daughters of Zelophehad speak
right: thou shalt surely give them a possession of an inheritance among their
father's brethren; and thou shalt cause the inheritance of their father to pass
unto them. 8 And thou shalt speak unto the children of Israel, saying, If a man
die, and have no son, then ye shall cause his inheritance to pass unto his
daughter. 9 And if he have no daughter, then ye shall give his inheritance unto
his brethren. 10 And if he have no brethren, then ye shall give his inheritance
unto his father's brethren. 11 And if his father have no brethren, then ye shall
give his inheritance unto his kinsman that is next to him of his family, and he
shall possess it: and it shall be unto the children of Israel a statute of
judgment, as the LORD commanded Moses.
These
young ladies knew their rights as they had been brought up in a very structured
system. Notice that they could
approach Moses and all of the princes. They
did not have to be bullied into submission.
They won their case. The
inheritance passed on to them. It
must be noted here that the inheritance was to
be passed on. It was as good as
theirs, since God had promised it, but the Israelites had not yet crossed the
Jordan. Many of these principles
concerning inheritance and (NOTE)
GUARDIANSHIP are embodied in civil statutes in our country today. Notice that the instructions are very specific.
Shortly
after a problem arose. Someone came
to their senses and realized it was possible for these ladies to marry outside
of their tribe. So, another meeting had to be called. The account is in Numbers 36: 1-13. Lets read it.
Numbers
36:1- 13
And the chief fathers of the families of the children of Gilead, the son of
Machir, the son of Manasseh, of the families of the sons of Joseph, came near,
and spake before Moses, and before the princes, the chief fathers of the
children of Israel: 2 And they said, The LORD commanded my lord to give the land
for an inheritance by lot to the children of Israel: and my lord was commanded
by the LORD to give the inheritance of Zelophehad our brother unto his
daughters. 3 And if they be married to any of the sons of the other tribes of
the children of Israel, then shall their inheritance be taken from the
inheritance of our fathers, and shall be put to the inheritance of the tribe
whereunto they are received: so shall it be taken from the lot of our
inheritance. 4 And when the jubile of the children of Israel shall be, then
shall their inheritance be put unto the inheritance of the tribe whereunto they
are received: so shall their inheritance be taken away from the inheritance of
the tribe of our fathers. 5 And Moses commanded the children of Israel according
to the word of the LORD, saying, The tribe of the sons of Joseph hath said well.
6 This is the thing which the LORD doth command concerning the daughters of
Zelophehad, saying, Let them marry to whom they think best; only to the family
of the tribe of their father shall they marry. 7 So shall not the inheritance of
the children of Israel remove from tribe to tribe: for every one of the children
of Israel shall keep himself to the inheritance of the tribe of his fathers. 8
And every daughter, that possesseth an inheritance in any tribe of the children
of Israel, shall be wife unto one of the family of the tribe of her father, that
the children of Israel may enjoy every man the inheritance of his fathers. 9
Neither shall the inheritance remove from one tribe to another tribe; but every
one of the tribes of the children of Israel shall keep himself to his own
inheritance. 10 Even as the LORD commanded Moses, so did the daughters of
Zelophehad: 11 For Mahlah, Tirzah, and Hoglah, and Milcah, and Noah, the
daughters of Zelophehad, were
married unto their fathers brothers' sons: 12 And they were married into the families of the sons of Manasseh
the son of Joseph, and their inheritance remained in the tribe of the family of
their father. 13 These are the
commandments and the judgments,
which the LORD commanded by the hand of Moses unto the children of Israel in the
plains of Moab by Jordan near
Jericho.
Now
we have the whole story. The topic
of these scriptures is not how to approach betrothal and marriage. The
topic is how to handle an inheritance. Notice
that these instructions are called commandments
and judgements. Not all of
God’s commandments are expressed in the Ten
Commandments. There is no
room to interpret these scriptures as something to justify women doing what is
right in their own eyes concerning dating,
betrothal,
and marriage.
The
Plain Truth
of the matter is that young ladies do not have the privilege of determining
whom they may
date,
become betrothed
too, and marry under God’s laws. Notice
the role of uncles and other close kinsmen as they relate to an inheritance. These young ladies had other uncles and kinsmen to handle the
betrothal
arrangements (Guardianship if you will). There
is no evidence these young ladies ever did anything outside the parameters of
the statutes and judgements of their
nation. They did not sell their
inheritance for a “bowl of cold soup.”
Young people in the Churches of God
need to careful, they need to focus on the Tuth of God. As it says in:
Deut.
8:1-4
"Every commandment which I command you today you must be careful
to observe, that you may live and
multiply, and go in and possess the land of which the LORD swore to your
fathers. 2And you shall remember that the LORD your God led you all the way
these forty years in the wilderness, to humble you and test you, to know what
was in your heart, whether you would keep His commandments or not. 3So He
humbled you, allowed you to hunger, and fed you with manna which you did not
know nor did your fathers know, that He might make you know that man shall not
live by bread alone; but man lives by every word that proceeds from the mouth of
the LORD. 4Your garments did not wear out on you, nor did your foot swell these
forty years.
Young
people need to know the whole truth
about the protocol of
dating
and betrothal,
otherwise they will follow a path that will make their lives a Forlorn
Hope. The consequences of their actions will reach out and effect
many lives for a long time. This is
why God desires parents to be involved in the decision making, regarding dating,
betrothal,
and marriage. This is why the
Physical Family is to have God’s governmental structure, and be the instrument
of a God Plane Family. It is so
real hope can be added to the faith needed by young people as they mature to
a happy marriage. Hope
is the Great Motivator, the
energizing force behind the way we approach God’s instructions.
Faith and hope
work together to make a successful marriage.